Children and the Law

Our favorite cases are those where we are get to represent good parents.  In fact, we are not interested in any parent who walks in the door talking about his or her rights, and who can’t follow up a claim of caring about the kids by showing us what he or she has already done, or is wiling to do, to sacrifice self-interest for the benefit of his or her children.   It’s that simple.  When it comes to a child custody or visitation case, we aren’t interested in women’s rights or father’s rights, and neither are the courts.  The courts are interested in children’s rights and they expect you to prove that you are too.

We believe that children need two parents and all the wonderful things that go with each one, including grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and community.

Our commitment to representing  self-sacrificing parents in child custody cases is absolute.  If you can show us that you can, or are willing to learn how to do the following, then you just might be one of our “ideal clients”.  Here is what we look for:

• More often than not, do you treat the other parent respectfully in what you say and what you do, even when the other parent fails to show you the same respect?  What can you show us that proves it?
• Do you understand, or are you willing to be open-minded to the simple fact that the most important thing you can give your child is your engaged attention?  What can you show us that proves it?
• Do you acknowledge that, along with the “right” to be a parent, there is a corresponding “obligation” to support your children, financially and emotionally, whether you are a father or a mother?  What can you show us that proves it?
• Have you been willing to put aside your own interests —- in other relationships, promotions, material gain, and “winning” your dispute with the other parent — so that you can give yourself to your kids?  What can you show us that proves it?

The reason we insist on taking only cases where parents show us from their first visit with us that they’ve done these things or are willing to go any lengths to learn how to do them,  is that these are really the only child custody cases that are worth winning.  And when resolved, the winners are the kids.